It’s the experience we create that makes the biggest difference, not the information we give.

Experiences create memories in our bodies, and our minds are designed to forget.

Especially in a world where most knowledge can be Googled, practice creating meaningful experiences for people, including yourself, and the important stuff will stick.

When little moments of hard dont throw you off, the whole becomes easy.

Bring ease to the little moments of hard, and in hindsight the process will have been easy.

Hard is a part of the whole, yet wholeness brings ease.

There is no “right” thing that you should already know in this moment. There is no “right” experience you should have had that qualifies you to provide value. We are meant to bring our knowledge and experiences together to co-create, not to prove to each other that we already know.

You will know what to say when you need to know, and you will know what to do when you need to know. If you let go of needing to be impressive and instead shift to co-creation. If you are present in your life and trust your inner guidance, you can trust you will have the perfect experiences to set you up to contribute through what you know and what you don’t know.

When our souls can rest, we can see more clearly, be more loving, give more, and receive more. We need to have the perfect amount of rest to endure, create, contribute, be challenged, and grow.

If you want to be someone who supports people in feeling clear, loving, generous, receptive, creative, and powerful, creating an environment with enough ease is critical. Ease doesn’t mean you don’t talk about or do the tough stuff; it means you don’t make it harder than it has to be by bringing judgment, fear, comparison, lack, doubt, or anything of that flavor into the space.

There is no way around the challenges and heartbreaks of this life. Yet, when we deeply know and can rest in the truth of who we are at our essence, these obstacles don’t need to threaten our worth, and our souls can rest. If we want people to let go and trust us, we need to be able to let go ourselves and trust in something bigger.

Could it be that the most critical knowledge to have as a “leader” is your own knowing of what you believe you can rest in?

A true teacher won’t tell you what to do. They know they don’t know what you should do because only you can know.

A true teacher will give you the tools, ask the questions, and create the environments that help you learn from your Self what to do. Leading is not about having the answers. It is about discovering, demonstrating, and teaching how to navigate the unknown.

No one else can create what you are meant to create with your life, and the process and practice of creating are essential to your fulfillment. To create, you must be present, and one of the greatest threats to your creative power and your fulfillment is comparison.

Comparison is a form of going to the future and going to the future can be an inspiring, wisdom-generating place to rest, or it can be a place to hide inside the fear of what could go wrong. When we compare what we are creating with our lives now with what other people have already made with their lives in the past, we are abdicating our responsibility and therefore giving away our power. We are meant to uplift and inspire one another, not create shoulds and shouldnt’s to box ourselves and others inside of.

Comparison is a cop-out. We need you to be fully yourself and bring your perspective and presence. Your journey is unique. You can learn from someone else without comparing yourself to them or copying them. It takes courage to be in the present moment and create; courage is your essence.

What might it feel like to get go of trying to measure your outcomes based on comparison and shift to generating the feeling of creating in the present moment?

Transformation happens in intensity; it doesn’t happen in “meh.”

If you are waiting to experience something new, yet it’s not happening, you likely need more intensity. However, intensity doesn’t always mean discomfort. Intensity can also be felt in the form of Love, often found through surrender, ease, and letting go.

What do you need today to continue down your transformational path? The intensity of discomfort that comes with new levels of effort? Or the intensity of Love that comes with new levels of letting go?

The ripple effect of your life only happens when you dive in.

Your inner truth, passion, creativity, and gifts will only be felt by others when you are willing to trust yourself and dive into the depths of what lies within you. Contribution is an inward journey, not an outward one. As you continue to discover and delve more deeply into what is most resonant with you and create your actions and expression from it, what you give to the world will happen naturally.

It may feel scary to go for it, as this requires you to let go of what others might say, think, or expect. However, you have no control over those things anyway, so letting go is how you shift from struggling to serving.

Where are you waiting on the edge instead of diving in?

Love, or anything else worth devoting your life to, is incredibly simple, yet it is not necessarily easy to stay connected to and embody with the distractions around us. While keeping our focus on the most important thing might not feel easy, when we are willing to practice, it makes the rest of our lives simpler and more profound.

Instead of seeking the easy way, seek the simple way. The simple way requires us to let go of what we know and how everyone else does it. It requires surrendering to the mystery of the unknown. If it were easy, everyone else would already be doing it, and we would be living in a different world. By having the courage to keep things simple, you create a new possibility for others, which eventually makes things easier.

What would be possible if you were willing to seek the simple path instead of the easy path?

Everything you need to “let in” is already within you.

Peace, support, abundance, wisdom, or anything else you are hoping to receive or allow already exists within you. There is no big project to embark on around opening yourself up to be able to receive. All you need to do is practice allowing yourself to be present and turning your focus to noticing those things in your body and field, here and now.

Inevitably your focus will start to turn outward towards things that your mind thinks are missing. When this happens, simply bring your attention back to the present moment and practice sensing and feeling what is already within. This continued practice will help you receive all the gifts you’ve already been given and are just waiting to be activated with your focus.

What have you been waiting for that’s actually waiting for you?

We are in a collective learning process, yet we forget that we don’t need to know everything already.

When we find ourselves stressed because we don’t know the answer to something, we can do one of three things:

1. Find someone who does know and learn from them. You get to grow through the growth of others.

2. Surrender to the fact that you are the one to discover the answer, and no one else can have the answer for you. As you learn, you help others grow.

3. Embrace that no one may ever know. We can all be courageous together.

The more we are willing to learn and share with one another, the more we will be able to withstand the discomfort of the unknown. It’s one thing not to know, and it’s another to feel lonely. What if we could remember we are in an 8-billion-person learning process and let our experiences compound for the collective good?

There is a big difference between knowing you can and actually doing it.

Choice matters the most when we use it to do the hard thing. If we always choose the easy way out, we aren’t harnessing the power of our free will.

You are capable of using your life to create something extraordinary if you are willing to figure out how to do things that your circumstances make seem impossible. The practice of creating your own path rather than waiting for the path to be created for you will show you how many of your “limitations” are simply habits, patterns, and ways of relating to the world. When you experience the power of doing the impossible, your life inside your body changes. This comes from doing the thing, not knowing you can do it.

What is it time for you to choose to do so you can have the embodied experience?

The creative process is really a learning process.

If you think of yourself as someone who “isn’t creative,” you are labeling yourself as someone who isn’t a learner. The point of creating something isn’t to be “good at it”; it is to learn about yourself along the way. And as you learn about yourself, you know about others.

We are all creators at our essence, and when we spend time creating, whether it is a piece of art, a business, or a gathering, we tap into our internal teacher, the source of our wisdom.

Self-worth is a feeling that comes from deep fulfillment. Fulfillment comes from focusing on what interests you rather than what makes you attractive.

Many of us were trained to source our self-worth from the approval of others, namely those who control the systems we are trying to “succeed” in. This has led us to try and fail at finding fulfillment through managing the way we look, the way we are perceived, or how much we produce. While our lower personalities may find satisfaction from “controlling” these uncontrollable things, they never lead to long-term Self-love.

The high practice then, is to notice the pull to place our focus outward and shift it inward. We were designed to experience Self-worth when we focus on what we are uniquely meant to do. Some of us may know we are meant to write, sculpt, code, teach, or be an athlete. Some of us are still discovering what we are passionate about. However, if we follow the path step-by-step of what interests us at a soul level, we will discover a relationship with ourselves that no one else can take away, change, or even compete with. Our internal experience of deep curiosity and wonder trumps our search for external, fleeting validation any day.

What would life feel like if you shifted from focusing on approval to discovery?

We were given authority over our lives, but we must use it. Our authoritative power exists in our willingness to decide. Many of us will not make a decision we are meant to make because we are avoiding the discomfort on the other side of the decision.

Deciding to do something is different from hoping to or trying to. Often, we lean towards something without truly deciding so that when it gets intense, we can back off and return to what feels comfortable and familiar. A proper decision cuts off the other alternatives, including the old familiar ways, and puts us on the hook. Because of personal responsibility, a.k.a. being “on the hook,” holds the most extraordinary spiritual rewards, it also holds the most significant resistance. When we become fully willing to move through intense discomfort and resistance, we can become the authors of our lives.

There is the discomfort that comes from stagnating, and then there is the discomfort that comes from growing. What if the latter was the sign that we are tapping into our authoritative, creative power, which is, therefore, the most thrilling part of being alive?

There is no one else who can decide for you. Only you can decide.

Most people will never apologize because they are too scared or too ashamed. The best way to get complete with people who have not come to do you with an apology is to assume that since they are human, there is a part of them that knows that they did was harmful. Yet, they don’t have the emotional intelligence or capacity to ask for forgiveness.

We can have empathy for this experience if we choose to, and choose to forgive. Forgiveness is never for the other person; it is so you don’t have to spend your energy resenting anyone. When you choose empathy and accept the apology you haven’t explicitly received, you get your life back.

Where is it time to stop waiting for someone to set you free so you can free yourself?

Inner rest is a state you can connect to and live from that allows you to work hard in the world without burnout from proving, worrying, or over-exerting. Inner rest is a state that comes from knowing you are something way bigger than your thoughts, body, or emotions. That thing has many names; its essence is pure perfection and cannot be changed, touched, or taken away by anything. Inner rest is available to you now and forever and is most helpful when we feel least compelled to surrender into it.

Remembering we have this place inside of us allows us to have more choice. We can choose to work hard when we feel it serves our intentions, and we can choose to rest fully when we feel like that is required. Our minds and the people and things around us will almost always have reasons to quit when hard work would be helpful or to push through when rest would be best. Inner rest is the place we can dwell that can help us choose freely based on what is most important.

How might your approach change if you allowed yourself to rest in the bigness of your essence?

Many say they want to grow, get stronger, become wiser, become happier, or be more effective. Yet, their desire to stay comfortable is more potent than their desire to change because they have focused on it longer.

Almost all change involves intensity. It feels intense to share our most personal selves. It feels intense to allow our bodies to do the reps to get stronger. Sitting and being still feels intense when our minds pull us towards reality. It feels intense to choose to be loving when we want to blame. If growth feels intense and most people avoid intensity, then most people avoid excellence.

Many folks will tend to go for the things that feel like they are checking the box of “doing the thing,” yet it requires the least intensity. This is why we see mediocre things gain popularity so often.

As you create with a commitment to excellence, know that it might not catch on as fast as something mediocre, yet there is no greater reward than knowing you gave everything you had to give.

Gentleness and softness are essential aspects of Self-love. However, to truly love our Selves means respecting and working with our human design, and growth is an essential part of our happiness and ability to thrive.

A good amount of our growth comes from pressing into and through discomfort. It comes from doing the things we know are good for us that we don’t “want” to do. So yes, love your Self enough to rest and restore, and also love yourself enough to do the new, uncomfortable, hard things.

Whenever you feel pulled to believe it’s one or the other, remember it’s both.

We humans tend to complicate things and make them messy. However, a higher order can support us in being happy, healthy, and helpful if we choose to tune into it.

Peace exists; we need to make space for it. Joy exists; we need to remember to prioritize it. Space exists; we need to seek it. Truth exists; we need to listen for it. All the beautiful things we want for ourselves and others exist; we need to value them enough to build our lives and systems around them.

Prioritizing what The Divine values most takes extraordinary work and commitment, yet it gives us all the things we deeply wish for that we waste our time looking for elsewhere.

What would you need to be willing to let fall away so you could prioritize tuning into a higher order?