The things that help us are most important when we need the help.

• Journaling

• Meditation

• Prayer

• Yoga

• Exercise

• Friend-time

• A good playlist

• Deep breaths

• Sunlight

• Sleep

• Breaks

If you need help, help yourself. Please don’t wait until you feel better to do the things that make you feel better.

What if you prioritized your clarity?

If your body is feeling stressed, tense, anxious, or dull, all that means is that a more loving way is possible.

And isn’t that great news? The question is, however, are you willing to experience it?

There are certain things we have mistaken as a luxury for too long that are actually foundational to our success as human beings.

One of these things is Self-respect. We think, later. Later, I will act on the desires of my heart. Later, I will stop mistreating my body and my soul. Later, I will trust myself and value myself enough to give my true yes and my genuine no. Later, I will be generous with the people around me. Later, I will send my life around what makes me feel whole.

The problem is that later is too late. Self-respect is the only path if we want to live lives of love and make a difference for one another and our planet. Only when we are willing to truly listen to our wisdom can our world become wise. A world full of respect will not be created through disrespecting ourselves. And we can’t wait for everyone else to do it. It has to start with each of us.

What if the goal was the way?

The majority of what there is to do every day is the quiet, loving work in the background that nobody sees.

The point of creating a beautiful life is not so others can notice it, it’s so you can feel it. Do your work all the time. Let everyone else do theirs.

Maybe letting others do theirs is the hardest part? That’s part of your work.

Would you be willing to let it be that simple?

It lives and dances inside the breath of letting go.

Letting go of the way others should be, letting go of the way you should be, letting go of what should be in the future, letting go of what should have been in the past. Letting go of needing anyone to understand, letting go of needing to be understood, letting go of being right, letting go of being wrong. Joy lives in loving this breath exactly as it is and as it isn’t.

Any why joy? It gives us our fuel, our clarity, our way to truly serve.

What if you didn’t need to label and judge right now? What if you let yourself do it later if it still felt important? How might you feel in the space of letting go?

Being strong enough to move forward means you must first be strong enough to let go.

What do belief, comfort, or burden do you need to release to ensure you are light enough to go the distance you want to go?

When we say we care about something, it often means we are scared of what may happen in the future. And when we operate out of fear, we lose our clarity of mind and our ability to choose freely.

When we find ourselves caring too much, our job is to shift from fear into love, releasing future outcomes and showing up with our hearts open right now. Right now is the only place we can make our difference anyway, and we won’t make it in a state of fear.

You can’t control the future, so why not practice showing up now with love instead?

What if there was nothing to get to, nothing to get through, nothing to avoid, nothing to fear, nothing to hoard, nothing to escape, and nothing to fix? What if there were just a truth to stay connected to and learn to express, and it only lived in the present moment?

What would you be willing to let go of so you could enjoy the game of life while you get to play?

Many people look successful, yet few people feel successful.

Many people look healthy, yet few people feel healthy.

Many people look wealthy, yet few people feel wealthy.

Many people look _________, yet few people feel _______.

Our work is to focus on feeling these things rather than looking them. To even do this, we must first discover what each of these things means to us.

What do success, health, and wealth mean to you? What do you need to do to feel them in your body?

Are you choosing it or is Fear?

Are you choosing it or is Resentment?

Are you choosing it or is Shame?

You are Love. Either you are choosing, or something ese is choosing for you. If you want to feel like yourself, make sure you are choosing for yourself.

Where is it time to take back your choice?

It’s ok to feel weird and uncomfortable; it’s essential.

However, there is good weird and bad weird. The good news is, your body knows the difference; it is telling you if it doesn’t like what you are thinking or doing, or it is telling you it is excited about something new and uncomfortable.

Embrace your moments of feeling weird, as they have valuable information to offer you.

Instead of assuming weird is bad, could you cross-check with your body and see if there is an opportunity to embrace?

There are eight billion people on this planet, which means there are at least eight billion ways to get from Point A (birth) to Point B (death). You are only meant to experience one of them, the one you are taking.

While you cannot experience more than one of them, there is a way to guarantee you don’t experience any of them: to try to make your path look like someone else’s or to want someone else’s path to look like yours. The only way you can fully live your life is to devote your energy to sensing and celebrating your way through all of your ups and downs, successes and failures, and allow others to do so.

Your path has never been walked and will never be walked again. What if you chose to be present with each step so you don’t miss it?

You should only be able to make money doing things that are bad for others and draining for you.

How ridiculous is this belief? Nothing is more worthy of financial abundance than serving others and expressing and contributing our unique gifts. 

What if we valued the things that create value?

Today, you get to move forward with the benefit of the past and without its burden.

If you choose to, you can release or begin to release the things that have not worked and carry forward the blessings and the learnings you have gained along the way. Things are meant to change, and if we let it be, the past can be a gift to us, no matter how it has been.

The real blessing is the moment and life right now and right ahead of you. Only carry forward the gifts, and release the rest.

How might you use the past to your benefit as you create what’s now and next?

When we fear people we cannot love them.

We may love someone in concept, yet if we are scared to be open with them in some way or allow them to be open with us, we are sending them, and ourselves, our fear and not our love.

What if you chose to love people by being open with them instead of fearing them?

Not a skill.

The skill is to learn to tolerate the experience. And the reason the skill is essential is because it is a necessary condition for your soul to thrive.

The experience of courage is one of aliveness that often includes sweat, elevated heart rate, helpful stress, and body chemicals that are preparing you to contribute. The more you can learn to tolerate, or better yet, value and celebrate this vital experience, the more freedom and, ironically, ease you will feel.

What if you fully allowed the experience of courage to permeate your life?

We usually don’t want to let go because we value something at stake- our comfort zone, our “rightness,” or a season of a relationship we have loved.

An inherent loss comes from letting go, which can bring any wave of emotions and body sensations like sadness, regret, or fear, to name a few. Sometimes the wave is small, sometimes it is big. Sometimes it crashes with force and power quickly, sometimes it softly and slowly disappears back into the ocean as a gradual process of the flow. Our job is not to control the wave; our work is to notice it, be present with it, and work with it, not against it, so we can go over it, under it, or ride it.

The beauty of releasing control is that it frees us up to dance with the beautiful waves of joy, ease, freedom, contentment, and wonder as well. We are meant to experience the vast ocean of life, becoming like it, undisturbed by the little details of what is coming and going because we are a part of the overall flow, knowing our role is to surrender.

Where can you let go so you can be and allow the flow?

The cells of our body are designed to heal, connect, grow, and let go, helping us thrive. They do so by having selectively permeable barriers, sometimes letting things in and out and sometimes not.

We are made of cells, and we are designed to do the same as they are: heal, connect, grow, and let go. We do this by being fluid and in the moment, not rigid.

Boundaries can be present-moment choices, they do not need to be permenant decisions. Trust yourself and your innate, intuitive wisdom when it comes to what to allow in and let go of right now.

What if you gave yourself permission to trust and dance with your boundaries?

Learning to love yourself truly is the ultimate form of “protecting” yourself.

When you choose to love yourself unconditionally and gently, you don’t have to fear your big emotions because they don’t disqualify you from being worthy of love. You can feel and receive the love you are giving yourself simultaneously. The ability to both give and receive this gift can help you navigate challenges as you learn and grow in loving others.

Additionally, as you expand your capacity to love yourself, you will notice you can more easily discern when to say no, say yes, share your perspective, or let things go with less drama or resistance. This self-listening protects you from the potential future repercussions of overriding your inner wisdom.

What if you shifted from fearing your feelings to thoughtfully loving yourself instead?

Just like the balance between darkness and light that creates the fullness of a day, relationships are meant to have a dynamic and fluid balance of space and closeness to provide the richness of experience they are meant to gift us.

The space you take to your Self is designed to connect you to Love and your Source, which connects you to your creativity. Co-creation is the purpose of all life-giving relationships, and your life's purpose is co-creation.

Just as co-creation requires space, space serves its true purpose when you use it to reconnect to your ability to love others, which is what co-creation is really about.

We each have a tendency towards closeness or space, and our job is to make sure we find our balance if we want to live happy lives.

What do you require right now, closeness or space, to live in your dynamic, creative balance?