Instead of trying really hard to will yourself to do something, try creating a self-respect practice.

What would you do if you respected yourself? What could you do that would have you respect yourself most?

Self-respect is a choice; it is not something you need to wait to earn or gain permission to do. No matter what your past actions have shown, who you are at your essence is 100 percent whole and worthy of being treated that way. If you take that perspective, your life will change dramatically.

What if you didn’t need to worry about making self-destructive decisions because you always respected yourself? Would you be willing to practice?

If you are feeling down because you can’t see your next step, try seeing it as an opportunity to develop a new connection and a new world of discovery and collaboration.

There is someone out there who can help you see something helpful; you just have to start asking around. Whether it is a colleague, a friend, or a resource like a book or a podcast, connections just are waiting to be made.

You aren’t supposed to know everything and certainly can’t know most things on your own. We are meant to be a web of connections for one another. What might open up if you let go of needing to know on your own, and opened up to receive the gifts of others?

There is a big difference between seeking joy and running from discomfort. Many things we were taught to do for “fun” are just a means to anesthetize the feelings of being alive, pulling us away from our essence (which is joy).

There is a new paradigm available. One where life has joy almost every day, and lots of it. One where you become responsible for real and profound joy, humor, beauty, and connection. There is a way of life that is possible where you put your energy into creating life-giving experiences rather than waiting for them to happen, and it can start right now.

Instead of reaching for something to satiate the part of you that wants to check out, what is one thing you could actively generate or create space for in your life today that brings you joy and helps you check in to who you are?

You are the only person you can be responsible for, so you better be entirely responsible.

This means that you can stop leaking any energy blaming, comparing, gossiping, scrolling, resenting, or resisting. Instead, you can use that energy to own your incredible gifts, discover your own unique timeline, contribute to each person you encounter with your full presence, and have a fun and happy life. Taking personal responsibility means that you own and clean up mistakes when you make them, yet more importantly, it means that you live the heck out of your life, knowing no one else can.

What if each time you noticed your mind trying to manage someone else, you returned to doing the only thing you can do: being responsible for yourself?

There will be many moments today, the next day, and the day after that for you to let go when you feel the pull to make a choice that creates you to be a version of yourself that you no longer want to be.

The power of a decision is immense. It helps you eliminate the options that no longer serve you, shaping your life. The root meaning of the word “decide” can help you remember you are metaphorically 'cutting away’ other options, making the many moment-to-moment choices to let go when you feel pulled easier.

Deciding can take courage because you are taking responsibility, yet responsibility is where your fulfillment lives. If you choose to, you can decide today who you are now or who you are becoming, and therefore who you are not and who you are not becoming, and make your little and big choices from this decision.

Will you fail sometimes as you work towards owning the responsibility on the other side of your decision? Absolutely. This is why you should also now decide to forgive yourself every time.

What would be possible if you finally decided rather than hoping?

If you sense you aren’t as happy, effective, or powerful as you could be right now, it could be because you aren’t truly listening to yourself.

Your body is your direct connection to your innate wisdom, not your thinking mind. Your mind often wants something that your body knows isn’t in your best interest. Conversely, your mind frequently won’t let you move into possibilities your body knows are next for your evolution. To truly listen to yourself, check in with your body and see if it is nudging you to move forward or pause and consider something new. If your body is not on board with your mind’s goal, it will be hard to achieve it. And even if you do achieve it, it will not be as easy or fulfilling as moving towards a goal that your body is fully aligned with and moved by.

No matter what your mind is saying, check in with your body. It is leading you down what may feel like the most courageous path, and that is the point.

What might your life look and feel like if you fully included your body in your decision-making process?

You are only getting better over time, you just have to endure the dips without panicking and jumping ship on yourself.

The downs are part of the up. If you’re signing up for growth, you are also signing up for losses along the way. Celebrate your choice to grow instead of beating yourself up for something that’s supposed to happen. Remember, staying in on yourself is important when you’re low. The growth only happens if you keep the faith.

What would be possible if you remembered that your value was only increasing over time?

Courage is always willing to help you; you only need to ask.

Just like you cannot help someone who does not want the help, courage can only give you its support if you ask it and are willing to receive it.

Courage doesn’t make the challenge feel easy. It may give you support through an elevated heart rate and increased alertness, preparing your body to contribute. Instead of resisting these sensations, embrace them and let them help you.

What if you didn’t need it to be less challenging; what if you just needed to ask courage for help?

Your next breakthrough will likely come from what you are willing to tolerate and allow, not what you do.

Taking the action is simple and easy. It is the emotional discomfort that arises concerning the action that makes it feel hard. It could be that the reason your goal is not coming to fruition is because of the discomfort you have been unwilling to tolerate. Once you choose to accept and celebrate the friction, you will be able to take action effortlessly.

What might be possible today if you expanded your tolerance for intensity? What might be possible in your lifetime if you developed your ability to allow discomfort?

The only one you should live your life for is You. And I use a capital” Y” on purpose.

Your little “y” you might sometimes be greedy, fearful, competitive, attached, burdened, or any other type of reactive. Your big “Y” You knows what is highest and best for you and also knows how to perfectly balance serving others as you honor your Self.

You are the only one who can connect with You and live for you. I am the only one who can connect with and live for my Self. When we all take responsibility for living for our Selves and no one else, we can co-create in harmony even as we disagree.

What would you do today if you lived for You and no one else?

You don’t owe anyone anything except the best, most vibrant, content, grounded version of yourself. Achieving this may mean backing off some of the obligations you created due to feeling like you owe someone something.

No matter what you do, some people will praise you, and others will criticize you. This is different from what you should focus on if you want to serve. The point of this whole thing called life is that we all end up better for engaging with one another, not more depleted and overwhelmed.

Your multi-dimensional well-being matters. What if you gave yourself permission?

Are you willing to be patient for it?

If the answer is no, you won’t get it. Anything worth having comes through practicing patience, which is the ability to remain calm amidst turbulence. You don’t necessarily have to wait a super long time, yet you must endure the discomfort of doubt, fear, and resistance so you are strong enough to receive and sustain what you are dreaming of.

If you rush it, you won’t get it. If you are patient, it is possible. Are you willing to stay clear on what’s essential as life remains dynamic?

Your body is always telling you when something is happening that is misaligned with the Truth.

There are many “truths,” yet they are all sourced from a quality of love, wholeness, respect, and allowing. So, while there are many truths, they all connect us back to one greater Truth, which is a whole world to discover.

There are many lies, and they are all sourced from a quality of fear, brokenness, judgment, and resistance. Our bodies let us know when we are being exposed to these types of things through the sensations they produce, just like with Truth. Sometimes, the source of the lie is our own reactive thinking about ourselves or someone else; sometimes, it is the words or energy of others.

Our job is to notice when our body alerts us to an untruth and reroute ourselves back to the Truth. Our body is always excited to move back toward the Truth because that is where it thrives.

What could you change if you were present with your built-in lie detector?

Believeing in lack will not create abundance.

If you want to create something, cross-check your beliefs first.

You can’t do everything perfectly. You can’t even do everything. You can’t even do most things, let alone everything.

Your power is in your focus and presence rather than your ability to get everything done precisely the way your mind wishes you could to achieve an unachievable ideal state of perfection.

Since your power is in your presence, your practice is to let go of doing all the things you cannot do right now and do the one most important thing: show up and devote yourself to the moment with love for yourself and others. With infinite things you could be doing and finite time available to you to do those things, it might feel helpful to let go of more and more “shoulds” so you can be powerful in the present instead of judging yourself for being imperfect.

Would you be willing to practice making powerful choices rather than trying to be perfect?

If you want 100 percent of the reward available to you, consider taking 100 percent of the responsibility available to you.

The amount you are able to receive in your life is directly correlated with your ability to take responsibility for yourself. Personal responsibility is different than taking on the burdens of others, and it does include completely and wholely owning how you show up in your relationships, communities, and organizations.

You get to say how you show up, what you show up for, and what you show up with. Everyone else gets to say for them, and you get to say for you.

What if you remembered your reward lived in your own choice?

Change is easy if you can learn to focus.

You are designed to transform. The energy of focus is the latent heat that changes you without effort.

If you focus on what you want to change and truly focus, the change is inevitable.

One of the most powerful decisions you can make is for “it” to go well. Whatever “it” is.

When you entertain the thought that it might not go well, you let doubt contaminate your power. Your personal power is your ability to respond with love, clarity, creativity, and wisdom. You do not need to be able to control the uncontrollable aspects of the endeavor for you to be successful.

Your job is to do your best. You can only give your best when you know you have the choice to give your best no matter what happens. Your best includes appropriate preparation, presence, and commitment to excellence, yet it doesn’t involve letting the voice of doubt steal the show.

What if you decided that it will go great because you are great?

A closed loop allows energy to keep flowing into its next cycle.

Procrastinating, resisting, avoiding, or holding back will always cause the experience of brokenness, not wholeness.

Where do you need to close a loop, no matter what it takes, so that you can keep flowing?

If you want folks to play along, be playful.

No one naturally responds happily to shame, blame, or right versus wrong. If you’re really up to a big game in life, be sure to make it a game.

Where could you bring in some more play to accomplish more of what’s important?