When I get frustrated with other people for not being their best, it is ironic that frustration takes me out of being my best. We become what we judge.

When I am not my best self, I am no longer creating my life, something else is, and I want to be in the driver’s seat. When I can remain kind, I can remain myself and choose from a place of clarity.

The Dictionary app defines kind as “having feelings benefitting our common nature.” Being kind doesn’t mean that I need to over-tolerate a harmful behavior or become complicit; it means I can understand that we all make mistakes as part of our humanity and that I can keep my focus on whatever is most beneficial to myself and others, which will never be frustration or judgment.

Our power lives in our clarity. Our clarity lives in our kindness.

The only real shortcut to getting anywhere “quickly” is going all in.

We waste time when we hold back and disperse our energy. If you want to get somewhere as fast as possible, take the leap, give up the comfort of what you already know, go all in, and enjoy the transformation by fire.

Your job is to in this lifetime is to express your purpose, which is both singular and multifaceted.

As you work to listen inward and discover how to share your gifts, instead of asking yourself what’s best for you, consider asking yourself what it best for your purpose. This may help get your mind out of the way and see possible next steps more cleary,

Your life isn’t really about your preferences, it’s about your purpose. What if you prioritized it?

If you aren’t yet able to be grateful, start with surrender.

Gratitude is an inner state and not meant to be sourced from the other world. It is meant to bring balance to the challenges of life so we can have the levity to solve them, not cancel out the challenges. When we can surrender to the circumstances that are not ours to change, we may be able to begin to allow our natural loving clarity to emerge.

If gratitude does the feel accessible yet, try total acceptance. What might happen if you stop spending your energy on resisting and reroute it to active surrender?

Yet you can create a team. You don’t need to do it all by yourself, in fact it’s better when you don’t.

You have a unique, irreplaceable contribution to make, and we all expand when we come together and let our gifts complement each other.

The things that are controlling you will never stop trying to contol you- your phone, your google calendar, your doubt, your judgment, someone else’s judgment, fear, your have-to’s, or your should-have’s. Their purpose is to block you. Your purpose is to remain free so you can serve.

Instead of waiting for things to stop controlling you, choose to stop being controlled. It is way easier to remain powerless, yet your fulfillment lives in your willingness to be uncomfortable enough to be who you are meant to be anyway.

Take your attention off of what’s thwarting you and focus on your inner, inherent freedom.

Prioritizing your relationship with the unknown could be the most important thing you do, as everything is unknown.

Much of the subtle (and not-so-subtle) stress we carry around through our days and lives results from our worry about and attempt to control the future. If we can influence outcomes, we will be happy. And, of course, we cannot.

When we tune in, we have preferences that can guide us- the preferences to be happy, healthy, wealthy, connected, and self-expressed, which emerge as part of our true nature. However, we cut off our ability to have these things at a soul level when we believe they can only come from our prescribed circumstances. When we instead allow ourselves to be open to respond to and flow with any outcome as we work towards our preferences, we reconnect our power to receive wisdom, clarity, intelligence, creativity, and maybe even enthusiasm and joy.

We have no idea what the people we see today will say to us. We have no idea who will be in our lives in 5 years. We cannot control what other people or things want, do, or experience. We can only practice releasing our pull to grip to be free to fly.

The only way you know you are up to something is if you receive pushback.

Mediocrity will attempt to thwart excellence. The status quo will try to stop change. Those filled with hate will work to kill off love.

As you focus on showing up and serving at your next level, let the resistance be a sign that you are on to something important, not a sign you should stop.

So don’t sit out because it doesn’t feel perfect. You will know when you need to know; knowing is a process.

Show up, and you will know what to do.

Set an authentic goal

Set your appropriate boundaries

Invest in your relationships

Stay connected to your dream

Ask for help

Take a break

Transform your health

If you’ve been waiting for anyone to do one of the the above things for you, no one will because no one can.

Your power lives in your willingness to let of the old and take charge of your freedom to choose.

If you’re spending your energy on not being OK with something that is happening, you cannot spend your energy focusing on your creative power. This generative, imaginative energy within you catalyzes when you accept and embrace reality, as you free your attention from the heaviness of resistance.

Of course, it is part of our nature to work towards what is possible and want to thrive. Yet, we must embrace the inevitable problems we will encounter along the way, both internal and external.

What if you could release the shoulds and shouldn’ts you have burdened yourself with and reroute your focus to loving contribution?

The moment you choose to learn from the situation is the moment you step out of being a victim.

Your learning doesn’t change, dismiss, or condone what happened; it simply allows you to keep growing, which is your nature.

You can only fail if you are moving forward. And if failure is part of moving forward, then failure is to be celebrated.

The only way failure is actually a failure is if you aren’t using it to get better.

If you want to feel unstuck, you must be willing to see things in a new way.

If you’ve been stagnant for a while, even after trying different tactics, it’s likely time for a new and uncomfortable belief.

What’s really been keeping you stuck in the old pattern? Taking the time to see the truth can unleash your momentum.

Leading and managing are not the same thing, and we are all meant to be leaders. Leadership isn’t only about ensuring tasks are complete; it is about providing enough light for others to discover their way.

One essential way to support people in seeing in a new way is sharing your dreams and stories. This practice isn't just about self-expression—it's an act of service. Dreams reflect our highest aspirations, and stories chronicle our journey toward them, complete with all its highs and lows. As leaders, when we communicate our purpose through where we have been and where we desire to go, we do more than only share our goals; we create the human connections that we require to be able to come together and work towards something better.

Authentic sharing goes way beyond simply stating ambitions. It’s uncovering the humanness in each of us that makes us more similar than different. Each of our stories is a vessel of lessons learned, resilience, determination, heartbreak, and growth that help one another see parts of ourselves that we wouldn't be able to see without hearing from one another.

As you lead yourself and others, the ultimate goal of sharing from your heart is not to convince people to go where you're going; it is to help illuminate the way for them to move down the path to their dreams.

We largely determine the quality of our own lives. It often feels easier to blame our circumstances — the job, the financial issues, the requests made of us, even our past choices — for how we are showing up today. However, we each have a tremendous amount of power in that we can make a choice or decision today that can begin to change our lives for the better. We have to love ourselves enough to let things feel awkward as we move into the unknown.

This and every moment is a chance to make a choice that can improve how we feel about ourselves and our lives. Of course, there are factors beyond our control, yet we get to say how we respond to them. It is this moment of tension where we feel pulled to fall back into an old, disempowering pattern that we can create a new opportunity for ourselves.

We are designed to be able to turn everything into a learning experience. The temptation to say yes to something we know to say no to is an opportunity to expand our ability to honor our worth and our boundaries. Our path forward is built decision by decision, moment by moment.

There is a difference between stressing others (or ourselves) and stretching them. Often, we mistakenly equate pushing someone hard with helping them grow, yet there is a vast difference. Stressing people is placing them under relentless pressure without offering the necessary resources, direction, or support. It often leads to burnout, disconnection from self-worth, and a sense of overwhelm. On the other hand, stretching someone is about challenging them in a supportive and loving way where they feel empowered, valued, and nurtured because you see the best in them and are giving them what they need. Our work is to lovingly guide ourselves and others to the edge of our comfort zones with the assurance that we are supported and the knowing that there is a greater purpose behind the challenge.

When a rubber band is pulled beyond its capacity with force, it snaps - much like a stressed individual. Yet when gradually stretched and given time to adjust, it expands beyond its original shape. That's the magic of stretching someone. We can foster an environment of continuous learning, encouragement, resilience, and validation matched with challenge. We all need to be appreciated enough to expand. In stretching, we grow; in stressing; we fizzle.

What would it look like today to stretch instead of stress? To focus on the long term rather than the seemingly urgent?

Things will be taken from you that you can’t control. On the other hand, things are being taken care of for you beyond your control.

With so much uncertain and unkown, the path to fulfillment is in who you choose to be, not in achieving or holding onto something.

What if you became just as great at letting go as you are at efforting through?

The fact that you are going to be less than perfect is why commitment exists. Stop doubting yourself becuase you fumbled. If it were easy, you wouldn’t have needed to commit.

Use commitment to help you recover, not to shame yourself into resignation. Appreciate yourrself for being up to something big and get back to it.

Is recommitment. And as seasons and circumstances change, the outward appearance of your commitment may look different.

What if you stopped beating yourself up for drifting off the path and instead saw it as an opportunity to recommit and grow? You may find that the more willing you are to notice the missteps, the more quickly and gracefully you can course-correct and move toward your purpose.