Endings over beginnings
The beauty of a new cycle about to begin is that we have the opportunity to complete the one we are in.
Completion is a state of being we can choose at any moment, regardless of the status of our projects, relationships, or emotional state. It is the most critical state to settle into as it is the only foundation for building new beginnings.
Instead of waiting for something to happen to be complete, choose to be complete first. This is especially important if you are experiencing failure, non-closure, or regret. You deserve to feel complete as you experience all parts of being human, and your new beginning will arrive as soon as you allow yourself to do so.
Don’t wait for things to feel perfect so you can begin. Instead, choose perfection amidst the imperfection, and you will see your next step.
Turn towards yes
There is wisdom and discernment in us that knows when to keep moving in and when to back up or turn away. These gifts transcend liking and disliking and can support us in feeling the resonance of truth. Sometimes the truth feels pleasurable, sometimes it feels uncomfortable, and for our lives to be spiritually rich, we must keep moving towards the sensations of truth and practice trusting they are supporting us on a journey that we cannot yet see in its totality.
When you know something is incorrect for you, listen to yourself. Save your precious life energy for the things that deliver you home to your yes.
Being defenseless
How would you spend your energy if there weren’t anything to defend?
You don’t need anyone to believe what you know to be true in order to make it true. If you know it’s true, that’s enough. If you know it’s not true, that’s enough.
You deserve to spend your energy creating rather than defending.
Love will win
And only if we use it.
If we really want love to win, we need to tap into it and respond with it, no matter what. Love can’t win if we are using something else.
Love over being liked
Basing your contentment on whether or not you are liked or disliked guarantees instability and suffering and promises you will never express yourself in the way you are meant to.
Allowing your contentment to be sourced from whether or not you choose to love puts your life and expression back in your own hands. No one can stop you from loving, and that’s the greatest freedom.
Don’t quit because you’re tired
Quit when you know you are complete.
When you are tired, rest. Resting is different than quitting. Once you have rested, choose to quit, stay, or do something else. Please don’t quit only because you are tired.
Rest restores you to your best self, and your best self always knows when you are complete.
Co-create vs manipulate
Authentic goals help move us all forward, and attachments to outcomes fulfill our self-centered agendas.
To live spiritually rich lives, we must be willing to take an upgrade by trading in our forcing for curiosity. “Getting” someone to do something feels less successful to our souls than collaborating with them to create something unique that inspires and uplifts everyone involved.
The present moment is where your power is- always. There is no future moment to make it to or outcome that will earn your wholeness. So let your goals be catalysts for more incredible things than your mind can imagine.
The only way to be true to yourself
Is to listen to yourself. Creating space to listen to yourself and your wisdom is just as important (I’ll offer more critical) than anything else you make time for.
Especially if you have been avoiding listening because you don’t think there is anything to hear or because you don’t think you will like what you hear, this practice is essential. The more you listen, the more you will be able to hear, and the more you hear, the more you will be able to trust yourself.
To begin listening to yourself or to take listening to yourself to a deeper level, take a scan for what you have been listening to instead of yourself. This could be social media, the news, your friends’ gossip, the voice of doubt in your mind, your mom, Netflix, video games, email, work, or a multitude of other things.
One by one, begin to eliminate the excess and use that time to listen to you. The more you listen, the more you will want to hear. So, start the process and see what opens up. I bet you’ve got some good stuff to share.
The courage to do less
Doing more creates more to do, and you will never have enough time to do all of the things you don’t need to do. So what about a little rest and connection instead?
You’re constantly told to be more, have more, and do more. So my question for you today is, are the “mores” you are going for making you happier or are they making you less happy?
If something keeps you in a game you don’t want to play, remember that you have a choice. It might feel like a courageous choice, and you have one.
Is it time to say “no more” so you can have the peace, love, or joy you have sought?
Stop trying the impossible
Almost anything is possible, yet you cannot manage another person’s experience; that is not possible.
You can create an environment with optimal conditions for success and can do your best. However, the rest is out of your control. So please take your focus off how they might react, and put it towards your full personal responsibility.
It might feel tempting to hold back out of fear of what someone else might think because when you withhold your true self, you get to stay safe and small. However, the cost of this “safety” is thriving relationships with yourself and your creator, two of your birthrights.
Your job is to do your best and fulfill your highest dream for your life. Their job is to do the same for them. You can’t do anyone else’s work but your own.
Stop being imprisoned by the impossible and start finding freedom in your responsibility.
Power over regret
Regret wants you to look to the past instead of to right now. That’s how it keeps you small.
It’s not who you’ve been that matters the most. It’s who you decide to be right now, and nothing can take that away from you. So now is the most crucial moment because it has all led here.
Tend to your fire
Self-care is more than just resting so you can accomplish your to-do list with more effectiveness.
Real self-care is keeping the fire inside of your soul roaring. This means it’s your job not just to rest, but to do the things that bring you joy, create the space to do the work that you are deeply passionate about, and stop settling for a spirituality mediocre life. It is so, so easy to let busy-ness get in the way of our spark, and for us to even intentionally or unintentionally make it harder for other people to focus on their aliveness.
Tending to our fires takes discipline and energy, and we need the fire to fuel the relationships and contributions that are important to us. Focus on the fire and let non-essential burn away.
What do you want to keep closest?
Boundaries are not only to keep people or things “out.” They are also there to help us keep the important things close.
Staying clear is a lot easier when you know what is most important to you right now. Start there, and you will know what to say no to.
Your rituals or theirs
One of the reasons that we fail, or that we don’t succeed in our habits are goals is we try to do them because we think they are a “good” thing to do or things we “should” do. Things that don’t resonate with us don’t tend to have the results we yearn for.
The first big step to success is feeling what you want, not copying what you have seen someone else do. From a foundation of your own inner resonance, begin to explore what habits, rituals, and goals you would like to create. This is a lifelong practice that will take awareness and energy, and what better outcome is their than creating a life that feels authentic?
You are capable of anything. Maybe you just need to sense in to what you want to feel.
It’s not about being nice
Relationships don’t always work well or and well just because you’re “nice.”
Relationships can feel whole or complete for you when you remember that you are whole and complete. This allows you to be loving, kind, and clear with yourself and the other person, which is way better than being nice.
To move forward
Instead of asking yourself how you move forward, practice being here in the present moment.
If you are here, you have moved forward. There isn’t anywhere else to get. The choice you need to make will always be right here, right now. Again, and again, and again.
Moving forward is a series of nows.
More tiny steps
After you take the first small step, make sure you take the second one.
Stay present. The steps will reveal themselves if you keep taking the one right here.
A tiny step now is a big step
The change might be as big of a deal as you think. It just may seem that way because it’s new.
If you were to make the change “easy” and begin with the first step now, what would the step be? Don’t let the overwhelm of the whole stop you. Instead, let the simplicity of this first step free you. Don’t let the fear of the unknown keep you stuck. Instead, allow the wisdom within your heart to help you grow.
Why you can’t
If there is something you know you need to do and don’t want to do, know there will always be convincing reasons why you shouldn’t do it.
Please don’t wait for your reasons not to do it to go away before you do it. The way to freedom and power is not to be stopped by your reasons.
Be unreasonable when it comes to taking responsibility for your life.
Working is waiting
In my partnership with the universe, my job is to wait expectantly.
However, my job is to wait by putting in the work. Just sitting around and hoping is not waiting. Demonstrating my faith through action is waiting.