Dust doesn’t tend to go away if we just let it sit there. More piles up. More time, more dust.

The way we create clarity within ourselves and within relationships is to address the thing that needs addressing. For example, if we feel remorseful, apologizing is what creates clarity. If we feel we need something and aren’t getting it, making a request creates clarity. If we love someone or want them to know how grateful we are, telling them creates clarity.

What is it time to address today so you can have a new possibility for the future?

I used to believe that keeping up a facade was how I could protect myself from judgment, therefore keeping me happy. I know now that "protecting" myself from what others might think made me unhappy.

Disconnecting from myself to feel “connected” to others felt safer, yet it was detrimental. So now, my practice is staying true to myself while knowing for sure that others will judge me. My protection from judgment is not in avoiding it; it’s in my connection to myself.

People judge us all the time anyway. It may as well be for being the best version of us rather than a shell of ourselves.

Every night before I put my 3-year-old and 4-year-old to bed, I tell them, “You are perfect exactly as you are, and you can do anything you want because you are limitless, and you are perfect as you are.”

We are also inherently perfect as we are- the real us, underneath all our habits, heartbreaks, disappointments, coping mechanisms, beliefs, preferences, and opinions. As human beings, inheriting or developing all these quirks which form our personality is inevitable, which is part of what makes being alive such an enlivening and educational experience.

Since we are both perfect as we are and imperfect at the same time, our job is to learn to stay connected to our perfection, which is love, and compassionately and kindly observe what drives us to do what we do. Through loving observation, we gain our ability to choose, releasing what no longer serves us and trying new things on. This non-judgmental self-exploration can allow us to notice how we feel when we make shifts and changes, allowing us create lives we enjoy and make a difference for others. If we can take this on as a life-long practice with no end goal, destination, or “fix-it” attached, our life can become an adventure versus something to get right.

Getting other people to like you, agree with you, or understand you are not essential to moving toward your dreams.

There will be times when you will need to choose to only go with yourself and no one else. These moments may feel like the most complicated moments to navigate, but your clarity gives you the freedom you have been seeking, not anybody else's. You don't have anything to prove to anyone else, only an agreement with your spirit to fulfill.

Don't let other people's stuff keep you from living your life. Their feelings are not your most important priority; your purpose is. Do the thing.

To respond is to choose. To react is to have something else choose for you.

I have never met anyone who claims they want to feel frustrated, agitated, angry, doubtful, mean, or rude. This is how I know all these experiences arise when we are in a reaction to life, rather than in response to it.

You were given the gift by your creator to choose how you respond to life. This is the superpower that makes you a human being. No matter what happens or what has happened, you have the choice now to take a few deep breaths and respond in a way that makes you proud and feel the way you want to feel about yourself.

Our spirits, souls, and bodies, love thrive when we are “all in”.

To be all in means believing in yourself and everything you commit to 100 percent. On all the levels mentioned above, we can sense when we doubt ourselves or the other person or thing. The results of that doubt can be detrimental, either leading to self-sabotage or "other-sabotage" at a gross or subtle level.

Being all in can feel frightening as it takes away your escape hatch. However, giving yourself over entirely to your worthiness and a big possibility is the only way to fully know yourself.

If you cannot believe in the other person or thing, your work is either to choose to believe or realize it's time to find what you believe in. And to discover that thing, you must believe in yourself. It all starts there.

You can create more harmony in your own life and, therefore, the world if you are willing to experience how much courage you have within you.

To be empowered means removing the discord from your own life. The main thing this takes is courage, and you have as much of it as anyone else on the planet; it’s simply a matter of whether or not you are willing to access it.

Courage often feels shaky, sweaty, nerve-wracking, fluttery, or many other things besides relaxing. To make courage more enticing, picture yourself on the other side of your bravery, feeling the harmony and peace from being free.

Harmony is on the other side of the resistance. Empowerment is loving yourself enough to dive in.

Anyone who has made sustainable, long-lasting, positive change in the world has also pissed people off.

This is a reminder in case part of your strategy to make a difference has been to placate everyone. You can’t.

You can however, upset some people and love them anyway.

One of the best things about life is those beautiful things that happen that we couldn’t have planned for or expected.

You can be an unexpected blessing today through how you show up today. The way you listen to someone could help them see a new possibility or have the courage to do the next thing. The smile you offer someone could change the trajectory of their day and life. The contribution you have been holding inside of you could be the thing someone else is waiting for.

You become a catalyst for positive change when you show up with unexpected presence and intentionality. Today (and every day) is the day.

I got my favorite bathrobe for a wedding present ten years ago. It is white, fluffy, huge, and cozy. Unfortunately, it now has a hole in the left pocket after years of use, and I forget it’s there.

When I wake up in the morning to come downstairs, I often put on the bathrobe, forgetting the hole is there, and then the phone falls straight out my pocket, slamming loudly on the floor. It scares me every time, and I am unsure how my phone has not broken yet. This hole in my bathrobe pocket is a lot like doubt, allowing the thing I want to carry with me to disappear faster than I can do anything about it.

When we spend time doubting, all of our excellent work slips away, especially in our relationship with ourselves, when we think, I shouldn’t have done that, about a courageous and wise move that didn’t go as planned. Or, when we believe, I don’t deserve to do that thing because someone else would be better, about something would fulfill us so much. This doubt is dangerous because it drains us of all of our trust, faith, and joy.

The stitch to fix the hole is gratitude. When we notice doubt has robbed us of our self-esteem and appreciation of our highest selves, our practice is to be grateful instead. By shining gratitude on the gifts of our intuition, inner guidance, strength, and wholeness, we amplify them, making them more valuable to ourselves and others.

Our human minds cannot understand the bigger picture right now. Tapping into the present moment's gifts, even when there are “failures” and challenges, connects us to our innate power so we can navigate our lives with resilience and ease.

Is to remember that if you judge something or someone, you become it.

Boundaries are about being able to remain your loving self, meaning that you don’t give your power away to people and things you cannot control. For example, when you judge others, you invite them into your sacred space and let them take over. Instead of judging, you can notice and discern what’s harmful so you can respond well and focus on who you want to be.

You don’t have to get sucked into judgment. Instead, you can enjoy the protection of discernment.

We feel stuck because:

1. We don’t take the time or space to allow ourselves to see what is actually possible.

2. We won’t be courageous enough to do the thing that brings the possibility closer.

3. We do both of the above, yet don’t express appreciation and gratitude for the divine genius and wisdom within us that has guided us and will continue to if we allow it to.

We can get unstuck by committing and recommitting to staying in a flow of the three choices above. The power is within each of us.

If you are holding back in one area, you are holding back everywhere.

What might be possible in every corner of your life if you allowed all of your courage, generosity, love, honesty, and self-expression to flow out of you in that place where you are currently stagnant?

Open up, especially if it feels uncomfortable. The unexpected is waiting.

Part of the definition of the word authority from dictionary.com:

The power to determine, adjudicate, or otherwise settle issues or disputes.

You are the ultimate authority in your life. Any internal dispute you have about your worthiness, wholeness, or ability is yours to settle. You get to say.

And impactful life is one where you can balance staying connected to the dream and dealing with what is real now.

You can use the energy and inspiration of your dream to give you the resilience to deal with what is right in front of you. You can use the grit of what you gain from your work today to help you build your dream.

A dream isn’t a way to pretend or turn away. It’s a place to rest that gives you the fuel to show up. Circumstances today are not reasons to become resigned. They are the pathway to actual change.

Unpleaseable people are not the people to spend your time trying to please.

Co-creating with and serving others is essential and leads to our long-term fulfillment. However, if you seek to make a difference for someone committed to staying offended, your energy will be wasted. These folks also impact you deeply when you focus on them because they can cause you to doubt your contribution and give up.

Continue to get better and do better, and keep your energy on those willing to do the same.

To be a leader means to support folks in getting somewhere important.

The truth is, none of us likely know for sure exactly how to get there, and a leader knows this. So a leader embraces their job to ask the right questions and have faith in us to help us figure it out together.

Lead not by knowing the answers. Instead, lead by understanding the critical destination and trusting a committed group can discover the way.

Living a life of choice is about living a life sourced from love.

Living a life sourced from love comes from remembering that we are inherently divine and perfect, and nothing, good or bad, can change that. Living life from fear comes when we forget our essence and attach our worth to external sources.

When we shift from fear to love, it often changes the actions we take or don’t take, and it might not. The point of the shift is that it changes the quality of our efforts, therefore changing the quality of our lives.

Let choosing love be one thing that upgrades the quality of your life.

When we feel challenged, our work is to find the sweet spot where we can discern the difference between running away and helping ourselves find more ease.

Finding laughter and joy can help us process our experiences and see things from a new perspective when life feels hard. Regarding our most essential commitments, checking out of seriousness can be helpful if the checking out helps us check back in.

You are the only one who can sense the difference for you.

What you say to yourself and out loud is directly correlated to the choices you have.

If you say something isn’t possible, you are right. You won’t be able to do it. If you amplify the power of your obstacles by talking about them as walls, you will make them bigger, and you won’t see beyond them.

If you talk about what is possible and what you want, you will see many, many more choices.

For change to happen, you have to actually want it enough to say it’s possible and that you are a part of creating it.