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One thing you definitely cannot change

Is another person. Especially through trying to force them To change. If you try to force them, they will almost certainly react by resisting right back. People only change when they make new choices, and no one else can choose except them.

Trying to change people is not love. Holding space for them, seeing them as capable, and supporting their own unpredictable journey of growth is love.

If they never want to make new choices, that’s their choice. You get to decide how close or how far you keep them while you love them.

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Embrace what others won’t

In order to contribute and have the extraordinary, you will need to embrace what most folks resist.

Problems, doubt, and discomfort are an integral part of forward movement. It’s your job to create solutions, expand your creativity, and grow stronger. You can only have the latter when you’re willing to start with the former.

Embrace what you’ve been taught to resist and see what changes.

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Whole strength

One essential aspect of strength is the willingness and discipline to take bold action, make bold requests, set clear boundaries, and have the tenacity to go for it and get it done.

The other side of true strength is the willingness and discipline to have compassion, listen with humility, and commit to love and generosity as a pathway to contributing to the world.

Well-rounded, sustainable strength requires both sides. So which expression is it time for you to focus on developing today?

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The whole truth

The circumstance you are dealing with is part of the truth, and it doesn’t have to stop you.

The whole truth includes that you are a limitless, creative being with untapped creative potential and success waiting to be discovered and activated.

The situation may not be what you consider ideal, and you are more capable and brilliant than your mind can understand.

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The ultimate practice

When you feel the energy of the moment, and you feel pulled to judge or take it personally, could you instead notice what you don’t like about the behavior and use that awareness to help you realize who you want to be even more?

Sometimes someone else’s reaction can be our most outstanding teacher in how we want to respond in our lives.

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What if things are getting better?

If we let the evidence we see in the outside world influence us too much, we lose possibility and imagination, which are essential in solving the problems we need to solve. Resignation is the enemy, not faith.

Even though it might look like things are getting worse, what actions would you see to take if you knew it was getting better and that you were the one to help move it in that direction?

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Bring it up and out

Your superpower is your choice, and your tool is your language. Speaking into supportive listening amplifies your superpower and your tool.

If you feel blocked in taking your next steps or seeing your next steps, find the right person or people to listen and hold space for you. Bring out into the light, bring some curiosity, and you will see down the path.

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Doing the scary stuff

When fear tries to complicate things for you and keep you stuck in hesitation, make the choice to keep fear simple.

Notice fear, and instead of entertaining it and expanding its power by engaging with it, take quick action in the direction of your growth so you can redirect your energy back to the beautiful things that you’re doing all the scary stuff for.

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Put yourself out there

The creative forces of our world respond to daily action because they operate on expansion.

When you make a decision to expand in an area of your life, the most essential practice is to put yourself out there. As you share yourself, ideas, and questions with the world, you will inevitably encounter bumps in the road, failures, and judgment. These uncomfortable experiences are integral to your growth as they help you become resilient and steadfast and can even teach you how to have fun regardless of the outcome.

Your expansion is not situational. It’s a decision you make that you support with your actions, no matter what.

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Yes they can

We help others more when we see possibilities for them instead of seeing failure.

People will often rise to the occasion when we see them as capable, and seeing them as capable helps us give them the proper support.

All of the above also goes for our relationship with ourselves.

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When you don’t know what to do

Just love them. It will help you see what to do, which is sometimes just to love them.

No matter what you end up doing, loving them will make it easier.

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Imperfect conditions

If you decide ahead of time that you will show up and choose to succeed, no matter how imperfect the conditions feel, you are guaranteeing an easier path for yourself.

If you consider giving up or holding back every time things don’t feel easy or perfect, you are choosing the harder path, because you will be repeatedly wasting your energy on doubt, hesitation, and regret.

Decide to embrace challenge and experience the easier path.

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Unlearning “learning”

You are designed to learn easily if you commit to unlearning that the things you don’t yet know are overwhelming or hard to find.

Discovery can be easy and even fun if you stay present and listen for the one thing to do right now and then do it.

Learning is a simple, right-now, present-moment, always-evolving, simple expression of who you are, not anything to resist.

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Embrace the ripple

Somebody will feel your ripple even farther away than you imagine. Although the distant wave won’t feel as potent as the power of the initial impact, it is still changing things.

As you create something bigger than you, if you try to control it instead of supporting it, you stop the flow of the whole thing. Embrace the reach you can have.

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A place for you to go

Positive imagination of the future gives you a place to go that no one else can take from you.

Your job is to help move us forward by visiting your special place, remembering the future that lives there and what it feels like, and letting that bigger vision lead you.

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Considering the wrong factors

Whatever that decision is you are trying to make, stop wasting your energy considering the wrong things. You know what they are.

Weighting the issues, opinions, and fears of others (or your own) will keep you from focusing on the essential things like your purpose, contribution, expression, and life.

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Lean into new

Just because it feels something other than easy doesn’t mean you should avoid it.

Just because it feels something other than easy doesn’t mean it has to be hard.

What if you could let it be new before labeling it anything else?

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Do you own your life?

Having a goal allows you to own your life.

A goal doesn’t need to do with arriving at a future destination or obtaining a thing outside of yourself (and it can). A goal can be as simple as, “I experience feeling rested and healthy each day as I wake.”

Having a goal gives you a sensation and experience to help steer your life and guide your choice-making. When we don’t set our own goals and intentions, we end up living into somebody else’s.

Choose what you want, use it as a guide, and own your life.

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Judgment slows us down

Not only does judging others slow us down, it takes the place of possibility and repurposes us.

When we feel the pull to use our energy towards judgment, we can use it as a signal that it is time to refocus on the more significant, more important thing so that we can stay in our purpose.

Noticing and discerning are different than dwelling. Allow the momentum of your commitment to keep you focused on the more significant thing.

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