It’s about shifting not staying

It is not an empowering goal to be clear and connected all of the time because it is impossible.

A more exciting and valuable goal could be to get great at noticing when you are unclear and doing the work to get there. This practice is more valuable because it is more practical and because your most important and most energy-intensive purpose is to be yourself, which you can only do when you aren’t judging someone else or processing someone else’s judgment. And you can interchange the word judgment for many other things.

Having the discipline to return to yourself, especially when it seems others aren’t being personally responsible, is the work. That’s why forgiveness is so powerful.