To experience having enough, we must release a belief in perfection.

As long as we think there is such a thing as being the perfect friend, spouse, boss, employee, or having the perfect amount of money, time, or approval from others, we will never be or have enough. The moment we can embrace our inherent, unavoidable imperfection as we work to be the best versions of ourselves, we can be enough, exactly as we are right now.

What if, to become more of who you are, you first must embrace that you are already enough?

The only thing that guarantees you will make a bad decision is if you make it for a bad reason.

If you want to make high-quality decisions, use high-quality values to guide you.

Where is a bad idea pulling you to make a bad decision?

When you find yourself wishing someone else would give you something or believing they should be a certain way, this is your mind letting you know how to help yourself.

Instead of thinking they should do something nice for you or they should forgive you, this is your signal for you to do something nice for you and for you to forgive you.

We can only be helped by others to the extent we are willing to help ourselves. Where is it time to turn the question to yourself?

If you want to be happy, you need to genuinely want to understand what other people are experiencing. This is the only way their upset will not upset you.

Or, the other option is not to need to understand at all. You will likely find that when you no longer “need” to understand, in the name of your inner peace, you will naturally understand from a higher level.

If you want to be happy, you must choose empathy, as it is the pathway to releasing the struggle for the unattainable control your mind seeks.

Where could you choose to understand or let go of needing to understand to find freedom?

We are learners, and life is a teacher. There is always a truth tugging at us or nudging us forward if we are willing to notice the sensations that tell us so.

Sometimes, the sensations feel like a warm hug, letting us know we are on the right track. Other times, they feel more like a heavy weight or a frantic unsettledness, letting us know there is something to resolve.

Either way, our nature is to grow, and we grow when we learn. We can harness the power of our design when we commit to learning the lesson that life is teaching us right now by listening and taking note.

What lesson is life lovingly trying to teach you right now?

We evolve into the next versions of ourselves when we forgive, let go, and learn.

Our lives and commitments become heavy when we see them as pre-determined, un-malleable, stagnant, or tarnished. This attachment to our past keep us from expanding, growing, and living lives full of wonder, creativity, and inspiration.

We are not our past- not in our relationships, careers, or anything else we have created. We are pure possibility if we are willing to let go of how it has been and take responsibility for how powerful we are.

What if to move forward, it is time to begin again?

Is what matters most.The preparation is what matters in showtime. You are always preparing for the moment that matters by who you are being right now.

Knowing what matters, what would you like to do when no one is watching? Will that help you be who you want to be when they are watching?

Means you never stop growing.

You don’t need to be the best in relation to someone else to win; you need to become the best version of you. If you continue to become better at being you and doing what you do, no one can compete with that anyway.

Just get better every day through learning every day. The rest will fall into place.

You already are enough. You already are doing enough. You don’t have anything to prove.

Instead of proving, you can focus on improving. So, while you are already doing enough, you might not be doing enough of the right thing to achieve the results you want.

Knowing you are enough, where have you not been doing enough of what will align you with what you want?

You have the opportunity at any moment to be complete with the way things have been, are, and will be. We don’t have to wait until we have accomplished something perfectly, until our plans have gone off without a hitch, until someone forgives us, or until someone validates us to be complete. “Complete” is a state we can access through choosing to tap into the wisdom within us that understands the uncontrollable, imperfect nature of humanity and the world, and has compassion and love for it. Being complete doesn’t mean we stop improving ourselves and serving the world around us; it simply means we don’t need to prove anything or require proof from anyone else to know we are whole.

If you want to feel complete at the end of your conversation, day, or life, you must learn to be complete right now. The only way to be complete at the end is to be complete on the journey.

What if you chose to be complete now rather than wait until the perfect moment that will never come?

When you make a decision, you are not deciding how the future will go; you are deciding that you will handle whatever unfolds after you step out from where you are.

Decision points exist to get things moving and flowing, which is how we discover our power, not to help us control the world around us.

Where is it time to get unstuck and decide, so you can learn how adaptable and powerful you are?

If you want to create real relationships, invest your time in things that feel real to you.

The only way you connect with people is through what you put your time into. If you put your time and energy into creative projects, that is how you will connect with people. If you invest your time into personal and spiritual discovery, that is how you will connect with people. If you put your time and energy into complaining and distraction, that is how you will connect with people.

Is there any way you would like to shift where you are investing your time so you can shift the quality of your relationships?

There are so many things you could do right now and at any moment, including non-doing.

Often, we do useless things to displace the discomfort we feel in non-doing, or to displace the discomfort we feel about doing the thing that would actually fulfill us.

Our work is to cultivate enough non-doing that we can create space to discern what wants to be done that aligns with our highest commitments, and then have the discipline to do those things rather than other things that may seem easier.

We human beings are doers. Yet we thrive when the doing delivers us somewhere new.

Where is it time for you to be more intentional with your doing and non-doing?

Are you sensing solutions from a place of choice and creativity or a place of reaction and frustration?

What if, when you found yourself grasping for answers from the latter place, you had the discernment to wait until you were in the former, or get yourself there now?

A solution is a state of being before it becomes a set of actions.

If there is something you want that feels sticky or tricky, you probably only want it because you believe it will bring you something you perceive as good.

If that’s the case, instead of making it something you have to do, make it a game. We have much more success with things that we enjoy doing. Also, could it be possible that having fun with the way you do it actually opens up some of what you are seeking from the outcome?

Where could you play the game with curiosity and play instead of forcing yourself to trudge down the path?

There is no way to be sure of what we “should” be doing. There are an infinite number of things we could be doing.

What we know for sure is that “shoulding” on ourselves takes us out of the moment, which takes us out of our blessings. If you truly understand what you are doing is out of alignment with what is important to you, stop it. Make it that simple. However, if you are doing your best in this moment to show up to life in a way that matches your values, yet you are buckling under the weight of the shoulds you place on yourself, it is worth considering that there is nothing else you should be doing than what you are doing.

Our minds will often say ‘should’ and shouldn’t ’ about almost everything. This first reactive thought is not the truth; it’s just a reactive thought, and we know it is reactive because it causes unnecessary suffering.

What if it isn’t even possible to do the right thing, because it is impossible to do the wrong thing?

If you are a grower and a mover, and you feel excited about what you are creating, you might notice a pull to rush or even escape the discomfort of the pauses the creative process inevitably requires.

If you find yourself looking for the next action to take and you notice too much resistance, it could be that it is time to be patient. Your choice to be patient might seem like a non-action, yet you are holding active space. Patience is our ability to allow things to be as they are while still staying connected to our vision. It is also the practice of humility as it is an excellent way to remind yourself that there is something bigger than you at play, and your job is often to let that thing do its work.

Is there a place in your life where patience might be the next action?

Wisdom is a frequency you can tune into and an infinite pool you can draw from.

Like a radio receiver finding a clear signal, you can open to wisdom by noticing and releasing distractions, embracing the present moment, asking wisdom a clear, helpful question, or generating a genuine sense of wonder about what wisdom has to share.

Just as a receiver can be blocked by interference or barriers, your connection to wisdom can be hindered by focusing on doubt, distraction, fear, or anything else of that nature. However, by adjusting your focus with love as many times as needed and listening deeply, you can clear the static and connect to wisdom’s song.

Where is it time to stop waiting and choose to tune into wisdom?

Just because you notice something doesn’t mean you have to focus on it and give it power.

Your energy is so potent that whatever you give your continued attention to grows in its impact on you and others. This is great news as it means that if you notice something you don’t want more of in your life, you can take your focus away from it and place it on something else, as many times as you wish. It also means that you can keep returning your focus to what gives you life as many times as you want.

What if it isn’t the thought, circumstance, or belief that has the power, but the focus you are placing on it?

Not only is life too short for you to ignore your heart’s desires and your intuition, but doing so will rob you of your joy and therefore your willingness to contribute at your highest level. And to receive your blessings and be of service is your job in this human incarnation.

This is why courage is an essential part of joy and contribution. If it were easy to trust your inner wisdom and you could always please everyone, it wouldn’t require any effort, and we would all be doing it all the time. However, for many of us, moving through the intensity of saying no to someone else or saying yes to ourselves or a vision that disrupts the status quo of others takes a lot of energy and focus. When you say yes to your intuition and your heart’s desires, it often unravels others’ agendas, or throws a wrench in their plans for the role you play in their life or the role they want life to play for them.

Our responsibility is to remember that we can disappoint others and still love them. We can have compassion and understanding for the part of humanity that wants to control, stay the same, and be right. When we can choose love for others as we make our individual choices, life becomes beautiful as we discover we can simultaneously love ourselves and love others, no matter what. Sometimes we can even love people better from further away.

You deserve a life full of courageous and joyful action, contribution, fun, and freedom. Not only do you deserve it, but it is your responsibility.

Where is it time for you to embrace the beauty of disappointment? Either in your willingness to disappoint someone else, or to be disappointed by someone, so that you can support them?