Freaking out is an option

And it’s likely not the best one.

Losing yourself to worry, anxiety, or blame often feels tempting because it allows us to step into a victim mentality, which feels like a safe place because we don’t need to take responsibility when we view ourselves as the victim.

However, learning to own your responsibility (or respond-ability) is like learning to love sleeping as you grow up. The alternative may seem way more exciting initially, but you feel much better in the long run if you choose peace. And not only do you feel better, but you are also clearer, more effective, and more creative.

If you notice the appearance of problems pulling you towards drama, practice loving yourself and your long-term wellness enough to trust yourself and the process instead.