Don’t fix. Transform.

Fixing is different than transforming.

When I find myself in a challenging situation that I don’t like, I often blame myself and try to figure out what I need to fix about myself to avoid discomfort in the future or what I could have fixed about myself retroactively to avoid the hardship. This reaction makes me feel guilty, stuck, fearful of the future, and other unpleasant things. These feelings block me from evolving into who I need to be to grow through the circumstances and thrive.

When I notice this happening, it is an opportunity to remember that there is nothing to fix about myself. In fact, I can even find a hint of joy and excitement amid the frustration, knowing I am in a transformational process and that there is no way I can’t expand through what I am learning if I do choose to learn. If I allow myself to transform rather than beat myself up for not being perfect as a way to “protect” myself, I can trust that life will always become more rewarding.

We are designed to evolve for the better, and we can only do that by loving ourselves enough to see the opportunities available to us in life as they are, not as they should be.

Where do you need to stop fixing so you can transform?