Go for satisfaction and wisdom versus a destination

Growth is not about getting to a destination; that is attachment. Evolution is about getting to experience both the satisfaction of progress and the wisdom that comes through failure. 

Instead of resisting or forcing your personality’s agenda in an area you would love to see change, start small and trust the process, as there is nowhere that you “should” be that will make you happy. The happiness comes from the small wins and the learnings that is the goal.

Since the journey is the destination inside this context, you can achieve the goal no matter where the process takes you.